Sex Appeal Vs. "It" Factor

Sex Appeal: someone that is attractive no matter the race, body type, or even personality. Attractive to men and women. A beauty all around. Draws people in with only that.

"IT" factor: Someone that has an attractive mind, conversation and genuine heart. May or may not be physically appealing, but you are enthralled by them. Keeps people once they find out about that.

To me these things are very different, and a lot of the time people either focus on one or the other and not really taking advantage of having both. Some Celebrities, you see in the tabloids and news with a new man or woman on their arm every week, and its not always because they are just tyring new people out or dating a lot, its because they are sexy with no conversation to keep people around. They tend to be more on the glitz and glam side with out the substance. Not bashing any celebrities, but a few examples of who I think have sex appeal and not the "IT" factor include, Megan Good, Stacey Dash, Paris Hilton, and Jennifer Aniston. Not to say these ladies don't have something special to offer, but they tend not to be in relationships very long and since their relationships are so public, you see it. They are Sexy women, that are appealing to many men, but yet the stability of a long term relationship eludes them. As all of this is speculation, but you have to wonder, is it they don't want a serious relationship or can they not keep a man?
On the flip side, you have women that are beautiful by Hollywood standards, and just beautiful to the men they are with, but know how to keep men coming back for their mind and not just their sexy. A few examples to me are Denzel's wife, LL Cool J's wife, and Jill Scott. They are in the spotlight, and have much more to offer than a eye candy arm piece. looking at Denzel's wife and LL Cool J's wife, they have been with their husbands for the better part if not the whole career of their husband. That "IT" factor that these women have kept their man there even in the celebrity eye.

It is still rare however for women to be considered gorgeous and/or beautiful by society's standards while also being very appealing mentally. When you find it, its like a mythical creature being brought into light.